Think Your Relationship Can Handle A Swinging Lifestyle
April 10th, 2010 by SexyGal
It never fails to amaze the general public that the swinging lifestyle is frequented by people from all walks of life. While all are diverse in their ethnic backgrounds, religion, race and social status, the majority come are middle class couples who are very secure in their relationships with one another.
Swinging is viewed generally as a form of recreation for couples. Swinging is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. Emotional monogamy, or commitment to the love relationship with one’s partner, remains the primary focus. An amazing 60% of swinging couples claim their relationship has been made stronger by the lifestyle.
Although swingers often become close friends with other swinging couples, there are unspoken rules restricting emotional involvement with non-spousal partners. While swinging involves having sex with people other than one’s spouse, its adherents claim that it enhances the relationship of the swinging couple both sexually and emotionally. By removing the secrecy and dishonesty inherent in one’s natural desires for sexual variety, the couple can explore their fantasies together without deceit or guilt. By removing the necessity for deceit from the relationship, a new level of trust and openness about all of one’s feelings is supposedly achieved without the destructive baggage of jealousy. (McGinley, 1995)
Swinging is not the wild sex orgies portrayed in books and movies. There are rules and etiquette to which are adhered to very strictly by swingers.
- There is no cheating involved as the couples indulge in swinging with the acceptance of each other and in full knowledge of each other.
- Swinging just does not take place between any swingers rather the partners are carefully chosen in likeness of both husband and wife.
- The sexual preference and limitations are strictly maintained as per the swingers desires and no violation of privacy of any kind is tolerated.
But just how long have swinging couples been participating?
Swinger roots date back to the early 50’s. Those were the days when swingers normally met each other through personal ads in the newspapers. Many sources claim that American Air Force pilots stationed in the California desert were the original participants in modern swinging. Though the exact beginnings are not agreed upon, it is widely assumed that swinging began amongst American military communities in the 1950s. By the time the Korean War ended, these groups had spread from the bases to the nearby suburbs. The media picked up on them in 1957 and promptly dubbed the phenomenon ‘wife-swapping.’
The 60’s brought great changes to the lifestyle as swinger clubs began appearing across America. Once the 70’s hit ‘wife swapping’ and ‘key parties’ became all the rage and swinging became more mainstream than it had ever been. Until the AIDS scare hit in the 80’s, Swinging continuted to grow in popularity.
The free-love, key-party lifestyle of the late-1960s and 1970s is back and it’s thriving in communities across Canada and the United States. Classified ads are filled with couples seeking other couples and sites such as Swingtown, Sexy Ads and Friendfinder are drawing couples interested in the swinger lifestyle..
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