Are Pen Pals A Thing Of The Past
May 6th, 2008 by SexyGalWe have all heard the romantic stories of pen pals that wrote to each other for years without meeting because they lived hundreds or even thousands of miles apart. You exchange a few pictures and spend hours drafting letters back and forth. Without ever dating, you fall in love. This is a classic story that’s existed as long as there’s been a postal system for delivering the letters between would-be lovers.
Today pen pals are meeting from across the globe through the internet dating sites. Let’s face it, most singles go on the dating sites to find love, and companionship, but most importantly they surf the net through internet dating looking for a “friend”.
Is meeting on a dating site really any different than meeting in any other manner? You still have to weed through the nonsense whether you’ve been introduced through a friend, met at a ball game or through an online dating service. There will always be people who pass themselves off as something other than what they really are. There will always be married surfers looking to cheat on their spouses and always predators just looking to get laid.
The advantage to internet dating is that you don’t have to spend hours and money on dinner, babysitters and the like while you’re weeding out the less desirables. The key to successful online dating is to take your time with the process. If you’re attracted to a profile simply take your time by becoming “pen pals” first. Exchanging emails and becoming pen pals allows you to find out the real person behind the “letter”. If you can be attracted to someone by becoming a friend first, isn’t it logical that the sexual attraction and perhaps a relationship will follow?
If you’re looking to find that special someone then why not take the time to do it right? Why not make up questionnaires for each other? You’ll end up finding out hundreds of things about one another and when you finally do meet you’ll have something to talk about. Expand your horizons and meet people in your town or across the globe. Look at it this way, even if you don’t fall in love with your pen pal, you’ve probably made a great friend.
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Jealousy Rears It’s Ugly Head In Open Marriages
August 17th, 2007 by SexyGalThe biggest challenge polyamorous couples seem to face is [tag]jealousy#.
Open marriage differs from polygamy in that it is legal, except in those states with extremely rigid anti-adultery laws. Unlike polygamy, in an open marriage both spouses agree to allow each other to have extramarital affairs and relationships can extend to people outside of a formally bound group.
In the open marriages of the 1970s, couples would often set rigid rules about whom they would allow to engage in sex with their partners.
Couples would meet in sex clubs or private parties and swap partners. These relationships were almost always purely sexual, and temporary lovers were rarely introduced to spouses.
Contemporary practitioners of polyamory have changed the rules, and in many cases thrown them out all together, said Dossie Easton.
According to Easton, polyamory is as much a reflection of changes in ’70s-style open marriages as it is a reflection of broad changes in attitudes about casual sex. “There has been a real change in attitudes,” Easton said. “We used to make a huge notion that if you picked up someone at a singles bar and didn’t want to marry them in the morning you shambled out of their house.”
“Nowaday, we have all kinds of open sexual connections with people that we call friends that we are not auditioning for marriage.”
Why Not Try A Little Online Flirting
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