Do You Have A Sex Addiction
June 16th, 2008 by SexyGal
Sex Addiction has nothing to do with a high sex drive. Because your partner thinks you’re a sex maniac because you have different sex drives is in no way related to an individual with a sex addiction.A sex addict, uses the excitement and stimulation of sex for short-term thrills. The sexaholic, like an alcoholic, finds the addiction gets progressively worse over time interfering in maintaining a lasting, loving relationships.
Sex Addiction can involve a wide variety of practices. Sometimes an addict has trouble with just one unwanted behavior, sometimes with many. A large number of sex addicts say their unhealthy use of sex has been a progressive process. It may have started with an addiction to masturbation, pornography (either printed or electronic), or a relationship, but over the years progressed to increasingly dangerous behaviors.
The essence of all addiction is the addicts’ experience of powerlessness over a compulsive behavior, resulting in their lives becoming unmanageable. The addict may wish to stop — yet repeatedly fails to do so. The unmanageability of addicts’ lives can be seen in the consequences they suffer: losing relationships, difficulties with work, arrests, financial troubles, a loss of interest in things not sexual, low self-esteem and despair.
Here are a few of the signs of a sex addiction:
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Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?
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Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
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Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
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Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?
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Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
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Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships?
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Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?
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Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
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Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?
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Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?
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Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?
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Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?
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Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?
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though the addiction may be ruining a relationship, the you treasure, you find you just cannot stop
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you spend most of your time thinking about the next liaison even though you may have a willing partner at home
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you spend hour trolling the internet for internet sex and pornography
If you feel you may have a sex addiction and would like to change your life, you might consider visiting Sex Addicts Anonymous, ( www.saa-recovery.org). They hold meetings around the world. Women who call can ask to speak to another woman and there are some men-only meetings.
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