Sexy Blog - Love For The Afternoon Or The Rest Of Your Life

Gentlemen - put that beer down and shut off the television - you’re about to get a much needed lesson as to why your little lady seems to have a perpetual headache when you’re feeling like a roll in the hay. I know you’re thinking that she’s no spring chicken, but have you ever considered that maybe you are the reason she’s not interested in getting down and dirty?

Fact: According to a recent survey and article from Parade magazine, 48% of men don’t have sex more often because their spouse isn’t interested.

It’s natural to lose a little sex drive as we age due to changes in hormone production. Combine age with possible medications that one of you may be taking, and you have a down home crisis building. “If you don’t use it you’ll lose it” may be the tag line for your relationship soon.

Medications? Does anyone actually read all those warning for possible side effects? You’d think that your friendly neighborhood pharmacist would put a big orange warning sticker on the side of the medicine bottle bringing the “I’m not interested in sex”  side-effect to your attention, but apparently “Take With Food” is more important… And then there are the football games to watch, busy schedules, children in the house, grass to be cut, etc. etc. You get the picture.

I’ve put together 10 Top Ways To Get Your Love Life Back:

One: Take a look in the mirror. Are you the ’stud’ that you once were? I know these buff actors look great with their 5 O’Clock shadow - but seriously, think about what that feels like against her skin. Clean yourself up a bit and throw away those tacky Fruit of the Looms. Those streaks up the back are a real turn off. Try to refrain from prancing from room to room in the nude. A little suspense goes a long way with most of the ladies.

Two: Could it be she’s self conscious about how she appears to you? Combine a job, a couple of kids, an inattentive husband and days spent picking up after your sorry ass, and it’s no wonder she could care less about “Mr Big”! When was the last time you told her she’s beautiful or sexy?

Three: You need to get serious and talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. You might be amazed that your partner is feeling the same as you!

Four: Spice it up. Part of the turn-off of long-term monogamy stems from monotony-doing the same old sexual routine every single time. He kisses you here. Then you touch him there. Point A goes into slot B. Oh, so been there, done that. Try new locations. For instance, try out all of the rooms of your house. Then move to the backyard. Try new positions. Try new outfits.

Five: Try new foods and new places. Get out of the house and do something as a couple!

Six: Try a little adult videos or toys

Seven: Hold your breath folks - consider finding yourselves a “Swing Club”. Just being around other sexy people, will get the blood flowing.

Eight: Why not cough up a few bucks and get a hotel room. Can’t afford it? Send to kids to Grandmas for an evening.

Nine: Get yourself some books on lovemaking. It’s time you both learned a few tricks that may be turn-ons for one another.

Ten:  If you you or your partner are on medications, speak with you doctor about the potential side-effects. They might be able to change your prescription to something that will not affect your sex drive.

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Having sex can be like going to the gym or starting that damn diet. Your mind and body rebels against it, but once you’ve done it, you feel amazing. But why all the hoopla about orgasms?Aren’t orgasms the main reason we have sex?  Obviously, since couples seem to be in a race to find it. You have to wonder why all the fuss. After all, the feeling may be great, but it only lasts 30 to 60 seconds!

Here are a few stats:

• Orgasms releases chemicals in your brain which can reduce anxiety, depression and even aging. An orgasm a day may keep the doctor away!
• According the Daily Mail and Newcastle University, women’s orgasm frequency increases with the income of their partner!
• Men have them while they sleep…
• Women seem to need self help literature to find that elusive orgasm as statistics are showing that over 30% of women do not experience orgasms during sex.
• Millions of people spend countless hours on the internet looking for it…..
• Most people never find it….   Many lose it…..
• Some orgasms are silent…Some are dry…Some are really noisy and really wet.
• Great foreplay can make up for a missed orgasm!
• Mornings are the best time for orgasms, as your body has produced sex hormones, including testosterone, overnight and, by daybreak, they are peaking.

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Is there any truth to the “Seven Year Itch” theory regarding relationships?

Research is showing that it takes between 3 to 7 years into a relationship before partners need to increase their levels of stimulation to obtain the same amount of interest in one another. This is usually the time that infidelity occurs within a marriage.

Couples who find a way to stay emotionally and physically connected during this “Itch” phase, are much more likely to make it through this period, and it’s no wonder that the “Lifestyle” is becoming an increasingly popular pastime.  An estimated four to eight million people in North America are swinging in the suburbs — mostly middle-class folks from all walks of life. More and more people are finding that swinging can be a creative solution to this problem, and the internet has proven to be one of the most popular ways for like minded couples to meet one another.

• Swinging couples bond better in a relationship than monogamous couples
• Swinging is best experienced by a couple that us able to talk to each other and share with each other
• Swinger couples are generally happier in their relationship than the average person.
• Many couples into the “Swinging Lifestyle” like the ability to live out virtually any sexual fantasy over and over again.
• Experienced swingers don’t try swinging for sex but for the experience
• Swinging isn’t cheating since the couple have decided to share this experience together

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The profile of some pig head at one of the online dating sites reads something like this……”Intelligent, caring, sexy, open-minded man wants to converse with intelligent, caring, open-minded sexy women. NO FATTIES. If you’re fat, don’t even waste my time.”

This idiot will be wasting our time.

The jerk seems to think that just because our stomachs are bigger and our hips wider and our breast are larger and our overall body parts are a little more jiggly, that we don’t aren’t sexy or sensual or sassy? Or appear that way to others? Give me a break. What does THAT have to do with anything?

We are the BBW generation. Who are we - why we’re women and we’re big beautiful women at that!. No more, no less. We are feminine and desirable, it’s just that we don’t happen to have a flat stomach, tight arms and perky little breasts. So what?

Is a man any less a man or less masculine because he doesn’t have a full head of hair, wicked smiling eyes, a handsome face, great shoulders and arms, a firm chest, nice stomach, or a tight butt.

He might be pleasantly surprised to find that our appetite for sex may equal our appetite for good food. Not like sex? Why wouldn’t we? Why not take a few minutes and visit our BBW dating page, you may be pleasantly surprised to find sexy, gorgeous women who are big and beautiful. They’re looking to hook up with someone who appreciates someone who’s not build like a 12 year

Meet A Sexy BBW

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Sex Addiction has nothing to do with a high sex drive. Because your partner thinks you’re a sex maniac because you have different sex drives is in no way related to an individual with a sex addiction.A sex addict, uses the excitement and stimulation of sex for short-term thrills. The sexaholic, like an alcoholic, finds the addiction gets progressively worse over time interfering in maintaining a lasting, loving relationships.

Sex Addiction can involve a wide variety of practices. Sometimes an addict has trouble with just one unwanted behavior, sometimes with many. A large number of sex addicts say their unhealthy use of sex has been a progressive process. It may have started with an addiction to masturbation, pornography (either printed or electronic), or a relationship, but over the years progressed to increasingly dangerous behaviors.

The essence of all addiction is the addicts’ experience of powerlessness over a compulsive behavior, resulting in their lives becoming unmanageable. The addict may wish to stop — yet repeatedly fails to do so. The unmanageability of addicts’ lives can be seen in the consequences they suffer: losing relationships, difficulties with work, arrests, financial troubles, a loss of interest in things not sexual, low self-esteem and despair.

Here are a few of the signs of a sex addiction:

• Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

• Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

• Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

• Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

• Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

• Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships?

• Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

• Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

• Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

• Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

• Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

• Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

• Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

• though the addiction may be ruining a relationship, the you treasure, you find you just cannot stop

• you spend most of your time thinking about the next liaison even though you may have a willing partner at home

• you spend hour trolling the internet for internet sex and pornography

If you feel you may have a sex addiction and would like to change your life, you might consider visiting Sex Addicts Anonymous, ( www.saa-recovery.org). They hold meetings around the world. Women who call can ask to speak to another woman and there are some men-only meetings.

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We have all heard the romantic stories of pen pals that wrote to each other for years without meeting because they lived hundreds or even thousands of miles apart. You exchange a few pictures and spend hours drafting letters back and forth. Without ever dating, you fall in love. This is a classic story that’s existed as long as there’s been a postal system for delivering the letters between would-be lovers.

Today pen pals are meeting from across the globe through the internet dating sites. Let’s face it, most singles go on the dating sites to find love, and companionship, but most importantly they surf the net through internet dating looking for a “friend”.

Is meeting on a dating site really any different than meeting in any other manner? You still have to weed through the nonsense whether you’ve been introduced through a friend, met at a ball game or through an online dating service. There will always be people who pass themselves off as something other than what they really are. There will always be married surfers looking to cheat on their spouses and always predators just looking to get laid.

The advantage to internet dating is that you don’t have to spend hours and money on dinner, babysitters and the like while you’re weeding out the less desirables. The key to successful online dating is to take your time with the process. If you’re attracted to a profile simply take your time by becoming “pen pals” first. Exchanging emails and becoming pen pals allows you to find out the real person behind the “letter”. If you can be attracted to someone by becoming a friend first, isn’t it logical that the sexual attraction and perhaps a relationship will follow?

If you’re looking to find that special someone then why not take the time to do it right? Why not make up questionnaires for each other? You’ll end up finding out hundreds of things about one another and when you finally do meet you’ll have something to talk about. Expand your horizons and meet people in your town or across the globe. Look at it this way, even if you don’t fall in love with your pen pal, you’ve probably made a great friend.

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The rooms where singles chat, and hang out in the hope of meeting and forming a future relationship, be it a date or a one night stand, are found by the thousands. The really good chat rooms are found on only a handful of top notch online dating sites. These rooms allow surfers with similar interests get to know each other, and share their a viewpoint or a small part of themselves. Let’s face it, it’s much cheaper than a telephone and any number of singles can chat online to one another simultaneously, and as millions have figured out, if you want erotic excitement, anonymity, and a fantasy life, singles chat is much easier. You can start a relationship, find a date or an online affair, and end it by just pressing the delete key.

Singles chatrooms open communication between people who wouldn’t have talked before, and can create another form of communication that combines some of the fun and banter found in the chat rooms, with the intimacy of letters. International chat for folks living in different countries. Asian chat, Latin Chat, Senior chat - the list goes on! What a terrific way for couples to stay in touch long distance, and there are few people with access to computers in the past five years who haven’t had a their relationship enhanced by email.

The allure of the chat rooms for singles is complex. First these rooms operate 24/7 which fits right into the lifestyle of many. At any time, day or night there’s someone looking to shoot the breeze for a few minutes or a few hours, and you never know when that “someone” on the other end of the keyboard might just be the special someone you’re looking for. In most cases you’ll be chatting with someone from your city who is also single and if you use your common sense, it’s highly unlikely you’ll he’ll be Stan the Serial Killer.

Secondly, the allure of singles chat rooms is that everyone from teens to seniors are tired of looking for love at bars, clubs, in personal ads and on blind dates. Though at first the rooms appear to be sprawling singles bars, most rooms are set up for different ages and sexual preferences. In many cases if you have a special hobby, interest or fetish, you can set up your own room and proceed to invite others to join you. Many of the chat areas are divided into specialized categories. From seniors living in Tulsa to cross dressers in Key West, singles in Asia to lonely wives in Chicago, there’s a room for you.

Adult Chat Resources

Check Out Our Singles Chat Directory

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Single adults are looking for quality adult dating in droves and their hanging out in the adult single chat rooms in the hope of meeting and forming a future relationship, be it a date or a one night tryst. The really good adult sites in fact only a handful on the net. They provide resources for single adults to pursue interests from those who are married and looking for an discreet affair, to adult singles looking for hot sex chat or a sex date. If you want erotic excitement, anonymity, a fantasy life, or singles chat that’s exclusively for the over 18 crowd, these sites offer unlimited opportunities.

You’re about to discover just how easy it is to meet exciting single adults in video chatrooms or thru instant messaging from across the country and around the world. In many cases you will be able to create a “photo album” of yourself. These photo albums are the highlight to your personal ad. In most cases you have the option of who you will allow to view your full album.

When posting your adult ad, remember that your ad should reflect YOU! What can be more irritating to find that the person you’ve been live with in the video chatroom turns out to have lied on their profile. Be a little creative. After all the definition of a sexy ad certainly wouldn’t be “well hung black guy looking to get laid”. Use your imagination and create a little interest in your photo personal. Your goal here is to get someone to respond to your ad! With a little luck you can meet up in the lchat room a little later down the road.

Take this opportunity to visit the adult single sites we’ve reviewed, Most of these sites have been around for ages, and they have literally millions of profiles and chatters online at any time.

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Sometimes you need to surf a few of the good dating sites until you find a singles community that offers you what you’re looking for. I think of this as “Power Browsing”. You cruise the online dating sites with quick and easy methods to find photo personal ads, chat, adult personal ads, and every one of them offering a simple registration process. Some of the sites don’t require any registration whatsoever. Best of all they only take a couple of minutes and you’re browsing some of the finest dating sites on the web.

The fact is, trying to find a date or looking for lovein local bars and personal ad columns is a thing of the past. The risk factor for today’s sophisticated single is simply just too high. Dating services and online sites now make the process easier, safer and in some cases more fun.

Let’s face it you can say things on a keyboard that you might not say in person. If you don’t like what you “hear” either with the personal ad or in the chat room, you simply move on. However remember that personal ads can be very misleading. People use flattering photographs taken 15 years ago that certainly doesn’t represent what they look like in person. Also, information may be omitted (like being married!) that might otherwise be the deciding factor as to whether somebody would really be interested in them.

Christians looking to connect through faith based ads, seniors looking to rekindle a flame, BBW women looking for an admirer, Asian singles, Latino or Filipino singles, the list goes on and on…… These singles are flocking to the net and searching the personal ad sites and hoping that something or someone will catch their eye. It’s one of the reasons you need to get your profile registered at as many sites as you can.

Find A Date!!!

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When young men are shown erotic pictures, they are more likely to make a larger financial gamble than if they were shown a picture of something scary, such as a snake, or something neutral, such as a stapler, university researchers reported.

The arousing pictures lit up the same part of the brain that lights up when financial risks are taken.

The study involved 15 heterosexual young men at Stanford University. It focused on the sex and money hub, the V-shaped nucleus accumbens, which sits near the base of the brain and plays a central role in what you experience as pleasure.

When that hub was activated by the erotic images, the men were far more likely to bet high on a random chance game that would earn them either a dollar or a dime. Each man made more than 50 gambles under brain scans.

The link between sex and greed goes back hundreds of thousands of years, to men’s evolutionary role as provider or resource gatherer to attract women, said Kevin McCabe, professor of economics, law and neuroscience at George Mason University, who wasn’t part of the study.

The study conforms with recent research that indicates men shown a pornographic movie were more likely to make riskier sexual decisions. Another suggests straight men think less about their financial future after being shown pictures of pretty women.

This all makes sense to Harvard economist Terry Burnham, author of the book “Mean Genes.” Burnham said it could be all summed up in a famous line from the movie “Scarface.”

“In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”

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