HOW TO AVOID
THE BIGGEST MISTAKE
THAT GUYS MAKE WITH WOMEN
Michael W
On a fundamental level, most guys are making a HUGE mistake in the way
they are trying to attract women.
Guys are trying to appeal to LOGIC.
They try to show a woman how GOOD they will be to her, because it seems to
make SENSE that a person should WANT to be with someone who treats them
WELL.
Women are PROGRAMMED BY NATURE to feel MASSIVE sexual attraction to
someone they FEEL is SUPERIOR.
Notice I use the word FEEL. Not ACTUALLY superior, but someone they FEEL
is superior.
What women FEEL are superior traits are often INFERIOR traits from a
LOGICAL stance.
For example, we are hardwired to appreciate what is hard to get.
So let's say in the past, (thousands of years ago) if a man was hard to
get, it most likely a result of him being desired by other females
because either he could provide or give healthy children.
To the women, the fact that he was hard to get was evidence that he was
desirable.
Today, however, it's very possible to have a guy who COULD provide AND
impregnate her to have healthy children and yet NOT feel the need to go
around with many females and be "hard to get". He could be SUPERIOR, yet
also be looking to meet the right woman and commit to her.
But women are simply NOT hardwired to feel attraction to a guy who is this
easy to get. They will feel he is a loser if he is too easy to get.
So what happens is the jerk who is a total loser and never worked a day in
his life, and who has no time for his girlfriend because he is too busy
chasing other girls, has her going crazy for him because by simply being
HARD TO GET, he accidentally activated the SWITCH in her head that makes
her feel "THIS IS A SEXUALLY DESIRABLE GUY!"
See? It's NOT logical, but you can understand how it could have made
sense, had the REASON for being hard to get been different.
Without getting literary on you guys, the same principle of being hard to
get is at work in the most famous romance of all time, Romeo and Juliet.
They come from different environments and social classes that are
forbidden to meet, thereby making BOTH the guy and the chick crazy about
each other. Both are hard to get.
Being hard to get is just ONE of THOUSANDS of concepts of attraction. The
key point, though, is that guys are confusing what is NICE with what
actually TRIGGERS attraction, whether a woman WANTS to feel that
attraction or NOT!
A woman cannot HELP but feel attraction when you activate all the
behaviors and cues that TRIGGER attraction!!
And unless you display these cues, nothing else on earth will make one bit
of difference.
PRIMAL sexual attraction is not stimulated by getting a woman to
CONSCIOUSLY THINK about who she should be with. It's not activated
by "good judgement". So forget about trying to appeal to a woman's sense
of "good sexual judgement".
When men try to appeal to her sense of good judgement, they are trying to
appeal to something that does not exist. It's totally beyond all
rational thought.
The problem is that what nature gave for women as "a sense of good
judgement in guys" was actually designed for an environment that
no longer exists.
WOMEN'S PROGRAM FOR WHO TO BE ATTRACTED TO IS ACTUALLY
NOT HELPING WOMEN!
It ends up often making women attracted to guys who are HORRIBLE for her.
Guys who treat her badly.
So consider women's programs as OUTDATED, yet unchangeable.
Which means that as men, we must DEAL with it and SPEAK THE LANGUAGE
of that program.
Yes, it's nothing more than a PROGRAM, designed to elicit in women the
EMOTIONAL RESPONSE CALLED SEXUAL ATTRACTION when prompted by certain
CUES.
What are these cues?
These cues are the signs, that, according to her PRIMITIVE outdated
program, signify SUPERIORITY.
But the way MOST guys are acting with women today is sending the message
that MEN ARE inferior, needy, undesirable.
The effect of this has been that women are treating men like CRAP and men
have NO IDEA WHY!
As a matter of fact, men only make the situation worse by being even NICER
in the hopes that women will respond BETTER. Of course, this makes women
feel even LESS attraction for men.
It's DAMN HARD for women to find guys that ACTIVATE their switches for
feeling sexual attraction.
Everything about the way most guys are says "I am NOT SUPERIOR and I am
NEEDY for a woman's approval".
Most guys will just nervously glance back and forth at a woman they want
to speak to.
If they do work up the nerve to say something, the tone of his voice
usually says "I hope you like me, I'll be REEEEEALLLLY nice if you just
are NICE to me back." "Please don't hurt my feelings, they are so
fragile because I NEED
approval very badly and can't afford to be rejected".
His body language is all cramped up and nervous as if he's trying to
disappear.
His style of dressing usually shows no pride or personality.
And if he is lucky enough to get a number, he calls the chick ten times a
day. And he's dead serious, as if she counts so much he can't afford to
screw
up by relaxing too much for a second!
Since this has been happening on such a MASSIVE SCALE, it's gotten to the
point where even COOL guys are paying for the sins of the guys who have
been kissing butt.
Cool guys today are starting to abandon the idea of getting into
relationships because so many women are so absolutely convinced that if
a guy gets into a relationship, it's only because he is needy. The women
then start taking ADVANTAGE of the guy.
So, by staying clear of any relationship, he makes it obvious that he
ain't needy for it, thereby showing superiority and commanding respect.
The irony is that THIS is when WOMEN start to become all clingy and needy
and REALLY want to be in a relationship with the guy.
If you want to become successful with women, you've got to get a grip on
the REALITIES of the situation today with women and dating. Most
guys have no idea of the what is REALLY going on, what women are saying
behind closed doors.
Women will NOT come out and tell you all their secrets and all the
truth.
Ignorance is NOT bliss.
If you haven't downloaded Michael's eBook- "The Dating Wizard:
Secrets to Success with Women", go to:
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success with women.
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Till next time,
Michael
W
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This article contributed by Michael W. of
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